How Do I End My Extramarital Affair?

How Do I End My Extramarital Affair?

Dear readers,
I have been stuck in an extramarital affair with a married man since 15 long years. I am a married woman myself with two kids. He was my colleague and the relationship started with friendship and slowly turned romantic. Things went well for the first couple of years, later we became business partners, which made it easier for us to be together during the day and live as husband-wife. Slowly, the attraction and love deteriorated when he started controlling me and turned abusive. He is too emotional, moody, sensitive and has a bloated ego and when things go wrong, he threatens to tell my husband about our relationship. He gets extremely angry and abusive. He doesn’t want to end the relationship or adjust to the circumstances. He thinks that I need to notify him of every single action of mine. I feel trapped and don’t know how to get out of this.

From a female reader

6 Responses to "How Do I End My Extramarital Affair?"

  1. koke   March 16, 2017 at 7:31 pm

    The way to end it is to come clean to your real husband and hope for mercy but expect divorce. Divest yourself of all business dealings with your side dude. Sell and get out of dodge. You cannot have it both ways.

  2. Chief of Grief   March 16, 2017 at 9:43 pm

    Kepushe wiso!

  3. kakolwe   March 17, 2017 at 4:16 am

    Chief of grief has nailed it. Your father can best sort this simple ‘mess’ your are in.
    You will simply get out of this on the day you start “ukumfwako insoni”.
    Rubbish ofa woman.

  4. kasebanya   March 17, 2017 at 7:30 am

    Stupid woman! You are the ones destroying young womens entering into marriages. Ukuletelela no umwaume na fimalwele.God should punish you.

  5. tutu   March 18, 2017 at 7:31 am

    wehule lyakantu weh,women are pathetic, makes me sick

  6. Zozo   March 18, 2017 at 11:33 pm

    You should have asked for advice before you got yourself in there… So get out the same way you got in…